I used to have a roommate, who like most roommates, sometimes drove me crazy. We were good friends and we spent a lot of time laughing together. But she had some really annoying habits. Most were superficial things that occur when two strangers live together. But, I used to gripe to my mom every time she irritated me. And I never realized how bad my griping had become until my mom admitted that she disliked her. I was shocked! She was a great person. But, all my mom ever heard was the bad stuff. She never heard about the time that we declared a water fight on our neighbors but never announced it to them. Or the all-night laugh fests with our pals Ben & Jerry. Mom was never privy to the positive times.
I bring this up because I have a different roommate now. And I feel like I only talk about the painful "she's driving me crazy" stuff. Don't mistake me, this is real and it is horrible. But, there are positives. And just as soon as I think of some I will tell you all about them.
I was going to stop there because it made me laugh. But, that wasn't the purpose of this post. Of course, there are positives. Some days are better than others. I just don't want anyone to think that every moment of every day is horrible. Every moment is a challenge, but they aren't always bad. And as stressful as these times are for me, I cannot fathom how scary and horrendous they are for her.